May 28, 2014
Letting Go

May 4, 2012
The Accidental Date

This week on HH4L Radio, hosts Uche and Lenee discussed “The Friend

Zone” aka that place most people hate to be banished to. During the

show, they also touched on when someone you “friend zoned” tricks you
into a date anyway. Here are some of my experiences with this.

The “Accidental” Date

I don’t know about you, but I must be a magnet for this.

I’ll get asked out on what I think is a casual friend-type situation,
only to later realize along the way that I was somehow coerced into a
“date.” Maybe I am just clueless about reading the signs of when
someone has more than a platonic interest in me.

For instance, when I was in graduate school, this guy suggested after
class that we grab some coffee or food, while discussing an
assignment. The red flags did not rise for me at all.  I figured that
for one, it would be a good idea to make some friends in the program,
and we did have to work on a project, so why not get started?

Silly me.

We find a Japanese spot to eat at, and while discussing the
assignment, he blurts out, “You know that I like you right?”


So, I found myself giving a very diplomatic response of, “You seem
cool too, but I don’t really know you”, shoveling in the rest of my
chicken teriyaki and getting out of there quick fast. I felt tricked
and bamboozled.  And in case you are wondering, I never gave him a
chance and I was wise in doing so.  But, that requires a separate

Another incident that occurred was a bit more sneaky and underhanded.
There was a colleague of mine who I’d exchanged WORK-RELATED emails

with and even had drinks with once, where we discussed WORK-RELATED
things.  Purely platonic stuff, so I thought.  One day he randomly
emails me, suggesting that we get together for drinks and dinner the
following Thursday. I had no plans, so I agreed.
Well, that weekend a male friend shared what he planning to do for his
girlfriend on Valentine’s Day. I had a “light bulb” moment.
Valentine’s Day was THURSDAY.  That fool tried to set me up!  Because
I wasn’t expecting to celebrate it, the date never clicked when he
suggested it. And it’s highly unlikely that we were both unaware of
what day Thursday was. Hmph.

Have you ever invited someone out without stating your true
intentions? Did you get the buns, or did you get dissed?

May 3, 2012
Hip Hop is 4 Lovers Radio Replay “How did I get here” The Friend Zone

*How Did I Get Here? You were on the highway to P*ssytown, and somehow got lost on the way to the land of lovin’! That’s right, you got friend zoned, homie

What is the friend zone? How does anyone get there? Can you leave it? Join your hostesses and special guest Ro of as they play some tunes and look at the nuances of “Friend Zoning”. Features songs by A Tribe Called Quest, Donwill, and Biz Markie. *episode is split in to part 1 and part 2

Part 2 and tracklist after the jump

Just A Friend Biz Markie
Sydney TiRon feat. Ayomari

Heartless Kanye West
International Players Anthem (Feat. Outkast) UGK
Love Junkie (Wallpaper. Rmx ft The Park) Donwill
Out Of My Head Lupe Fiasco ft Trey Songz
Could it Be 8thW1

Download this episode and more at

April 20, 2012
The XD Replay- Heartbreak Hotel: An Extended Stay

In this continued conversation about breakups, XD, Michael and special guest producer Lenée share stories and even discuss the bright side of breaking up: the rebound!

Back That Azz Up (feat. Mannie Fresh & Lil Wayne) Juvenile
My Papi Bought It (w/ Milan Zanotti) LastO
Ima Read ft Njena Reddd Foxxx Zebra Katz
Stay Ghostface Killah
Doo Wop (That Thing) Lauryn Hill
Come Around The Foreign Exchange
The Foreign Exchange (Nicolay & Phonte)
King Pleasure Baron
Glamour and Glitter DJ Fatha Julz
All We Do Young Jeezy
I Do (Feat. Jay-Z And Andre 3000) Young Jeezy
Slow Motion (feat. Soulja Slim) Juvenile

April 19, 2012
Hip Hop is 4 Lovers Radio Replay: Green Eyes

“My eyes are green/ cuz I eat a lot of vegetables…” Jealousy sometimes rears its ugly head in romantic relationships, so how do you deal? Join your hostesses as they talk about jealous partners, jealous friends, and how to manage it all. This episode features songs by Clipse, Method Man, and Azealia Banks.

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Liquorice Azealia Banks
Temptation Big K.R.I.T.
Shake It (feat. Joi) Big K.R.I.T.
RoboCop Kanye West
Break Ups 2 Make Ups Method Man
R U Still Down? (Remember Me) 2Pac
Let’s get away T.I.
So What Field Mob ft. Ciara
All My Love ft. Yummy Bingham TiRon & Ayomari
RODEO Juvenile
She Needs Me (Remix) [feat. Dom Kennedy and Murs] Kendrick Lamar
Ma, I Don’t Love Her (Feat. Faith Evans) Clipse

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